Wednesday, February 25, 2009

A story of Love


Hi dear sisters ...... Today my kind cloudnine took me on another exploration tour on Japanese history and culture. We went to Kagurazaka (神楽坂) - a hidden treasure of sloping streets and narrow winding lanes filled with temples, traditional kimono shops and quaint European cafes. It is this unique blend of cultures and shops which gives this area its distinct characters. While my eyes and mind got so busy absorbing all the wonderful places and objects, I didn't notice we have walked for almost 6 straight hours! I can only feel the pain in my knees and feet after I got home, of course it didn't help that I had my pointy high-heeled boots on all day! I was so hungry and exhausted and almost fainted when I read the email from my Nihongo sensei telling me to study 4 major topics for tomorrow's class! Ok, I'm in deep shxx, I chose not to think about it until tomorrow morning. I tried to comfort myself by posting some handsome pictures of HRH, but Blogger lost my post when I pressed 'publish' ! You know, that was just about the breaking point, I just fell into bed and decided to cover my head and watch MinHyung inside my blanket! Then I noticed another new email on my blog comment by chakachan. I clicked on it and WOW ...... my mind was frozen for a while and my fatique all flown out the window, I was practically speechless and in tears! I'd like to share this precious piece with you and let it touch the hidden emotion inside you. Thank you chakachan!


There's a young lady who became a breadwinner of her family( she was 2nd to the eldest of 7 children.)she finished a short course in typing and couldn't afford to go to college, so she had to work to help her mom and send her brothers and sisters to school. she landed a job in telecommunications company at 19.

around this time a babyfaced man, in his late 20's was about to finish his course in engineering in college when he decided to work.( he was the 2nd to the youngest child in the family and the only son after his eldest brother, died in the US Navy in WWII. )

When this man saw the young woman for the first time in the office hallway..he knew that she was IT. he would buy her free lunch from the office canteeen, taking her home from work, and making sure that he had all the spare time for his sweet nothings...it lasted for 4 months..because on the 5th month, he proposed...how?? he called everyone from his family to go to the young lady's house and ask for her hand. The young lady had no idea how fast he was...she was soo shocked when they came over to her house and spoke to her parents for them to be married the next month!!! Her father cried to tears, because she was a very hardworking lady and to loose her was painful for him.

But eventually they married and had a child, a daughter. they waited for 9 years to have a child, went to every church and prayed that god would grant them a child..and so it was.

when their child was 7 years old, an offer was given to this woman to work abroad. The man told her to go for it, because she might never have this chance again..so she did, with a very heavy heart, she left. She was alone for 3 years. On her 4rth year in the company, her daughter and husband was asked to join her. Her husband was a very successful professor in a university. this was his dream to become an educator, but he gave it up to be with his wife.

Living abroad and giving up on a dream and a successful job was a hard blow for her husband. People always made fun of him, because he stayed at home, doing her household chores, while the wife goes to work. The pain of having his wife as the breadwinner in the family was a reality he had to face and bare for the coming years. He stood by her, because he loved her. He was his wife. He chose to be with her even letting go of all his dreams...it didn't matter what people say anymore. This was his destiny..

When their daughter grew up and turned 17, he was given a chance to work again..as a typist. But he as getting old and his fingers were not as fast..so he lost the chance. but what he lost in his professional life, he gained respect through alot of really great friends. true friends who adored him...he studied languages to even communicate better with the natives..and they loved him. he never stopped teaching..even if it was playing the piano or reading hebrew...

his wife was always his priority..so he spoiled her. he would do things for her so that she wouldn't worry anymore and she won't be tired from a long days work.

the man died in 2000. he died from heart attack in africa on UN day in the middle of the celebration, in a small hallway of the hotel. He died suddenly and instantly. This was his 3rd attack. The earlier attacks he had, he never told his wife..for fear that he might worry and get sick herself.

The wife died 8 months later. She was soo lonely being apart from this man that she could no longer see, nor touch nor hear..she couldn't bare the thought of him leaving her.. she died from bone cancer in 2001.

the daughter was me...

16 comments:

bb said...

wow.

what a story of love. and chakachan must have grown up in family filled with love and grace and humility.

and humanity.

wow again.

thanks for sharing the story, both chakachan and jaime :)

to know and to have such love, wow. and to be the fruit bore from such love, wow.

myoce said...

Oh Jaime....
I came to comment in your last topic. But now I have tears in my eyes and heart....

Dear Chakachan....I know you're sad by their passing...but I am sooo touched by your father's unconditional and selfless love for your mother...he has given her the best..putting her first in his life...

My husband is something like this...and I'm so ashamed that I have not done any great things for him....

Thank you so much for sharing ...

Yee said...

Dear Lady,
Thanks for this lovely and touching posting, tears in my eyes and the last sentence gave me goose bumps ...
Dear Chakachan,
I am sorry for your lost, but happy for you, growing up with full of love and caring. Thanks for sharing your story. And you still are with full of love from your Bae family.

love,
Y.

phuong said...

Dear Chakachan ,
This is such a beautiful beautiful
love story in the real life not in
Korean dramas only .Thank you for
sharing with us , take care .

jenny said...

Hi Jaime and Chakachan

TQ very much for sharing to us such a touching and beautiful love story. My tear is going to shed down already.

Chakachan, sorry to hear the lost of your family and sure u have grown up with full of love , caring for others and responsible for whatever you do.

Take care and cheers to all

Jenny

Lin Chen said...

Dear Jaime and Chakachan,
The story touches my heart. That is real, is life and happened to our friend.
Chakachan, you must be a loving person since you are from a loving family. Sorry for your lost, they will stay in your heart with full of love and care.
We all hug you.
Take care.
With love

yudi said...

Dear Chakachan,

My eyes stopped at the last sentence and started to wonder "What does it mean?", unable to puzzle out the message. Only by finishing all comments from other sisters, I was convinced it is true. Thank you very much for sharing such a touching real story with us.

yudi

Macmi said...

Hai there...

Its a very nice story to share.. Looking up next post from you..

chakachan said...

to all my beautiful Baesisters...
Ms. Jaime, i am speechless too...you shared my comments to the world...ha ha ha..thank you for your kindness. But I am sorry, because I felt that i have intruded into your blog that was suppose to have BYJ as a topic and not about my life..i am really sorry...yet, i felt that the topic "Destiny" suited my parents story. When I wrote this as a comment to your blog, I was shedding alot of tears. it's been 10 long years now, but it seemed like it happened yesterday. my dad and I share the same birthdate, April 23. Funny, but something inside me felt that I MUST share their story to all...even if it was through a comment for a blog. Bless you Jaime...i really thank you for your kindness and being selfless...i owe you one!!!

chakachan said...

to all my beautiful baesisters...BB, Myoce, Phuong, Jenny, Lin Chen, Yudi n Macmi...you gals are wonderful...sorry for making you cry!!!but it is a wonderful story of my late parents. I call them the "romeo and juliet" of my life. It is only now that share this story with all of you. i am happy that it touched your hearts..and trully blessed that i am still here to share, yet a destiny that we all share..and that it to LOVE BYJ!!! thank you gals from the bottom of my heart.

Anonymous said...

Oh Jaime, your so naughty to make me cry while reading this story. I'm really a lousy person when it comes to drama, now you know why I cried bucket with HDWRL...

There is really no better story than a true experience.

What can I say, one of the best love story I've read and because of this I'm sure chakachan was also field with love while growing up. Hope shes's okey and happy even though her parents are already gone...

This is a true love between people, like the love that we all have for HRH...

Thanks Jaime for sharing...

jelen

flowerbossa said...

Arigato Jaime, for highlighting chakachan's comment in your beautiful blog...

chakachan, how do you do!
Thank you for giving us so much by sharing your stoy. Although you must feel much sadness in not being able to see nor touch nor hear your parents, I am sure with all the love you were/are given, you have all the strength to go on with your life with confidence. AND it is all too natural that you came across BYJ^^

It is raining outside, but my heart is filled with warmth - thank you again!

love,
flowerbossa

jaime said...

Hi dear bb, myoce, yee, phuong, jenny, lin chen, yudi, macmi, jelen and flowerbossa for your kind words and encouragement to chakachan. And of course thanks to dear chakachan for sharing your beautiful story with us.

I am very thankful to be walking this wonderful BYJ journey with you all. Let's encourage each other during this dryspell. (or Ice Age however we want to call it?) Please take care!

love ... jaime

Anonymous said...

Hi
chakachan

I'm sorry for your lost,
you have all my respect,
and I think very highly of you,
going trough all that
and coming out a strong and loving person.


Many hugs

Moontime

chakachan said...

hi hi jelen, flowerbossa and moontime...

it's ms. jaime that i should thank, because it's her blog and she decides to share it or not. I am honored that she did. thank you to all of you for having this piece touch you. I am always humbled with my parents passing..(i hope that my dad would get a second chance to fulfill all his dreams in his next life..)
thank you baesisters..thank you ms. jaime!!!


maybe i should start my own blog...???


MWHA!!!

jaime said...

Hi chakachan,

I also sincerely wish your father would be able to fulfill all his dreams in his next life.

Hehe, are u considering starting your own blog? I can't wait to know what you are going to write about :) Please let us know, ok?
all the best!

love ... jaime