Destiny

Hi dear sisters ....... thank you again for all your insightful comments on the issue of ‘relationship’. Newbie and a few sisters have touched on ‘Destiny’ - a concept so intangible, elusive yet seems to be an ‘end all’ answer to that delicate issue of ‘love & relationship’. To put it scientifically (hahaha Dr. Jaime's definition), destiny is ‘at the RIGHT place, at the RIGHT time with the RIGHT person’.

This analogy suddenly springs up in my mind : the conveyor belt sushi. Huh? Sushi?? I am sure you’ve all been to a kaiten-zushi (回転寿司) restaurant before, those set-up with different types of sushi parading in front of you one after another. You spot the type of sushi you like, you simply pick it up from the moving belt when it comes in front of you. Now you know sushi come from different sea creatures (some you don't want to know), in different flavor, taste, texture and cut. They also range widely in supply and prices, some are fresh daily catches and come in abundance, some are scarce in supply and thereby high in demand. If you spot a dish that you want, you better pray that the guy/gal before you doesn’t grab it first! (or you can curse them and wish they get diarrhea :) Similarly if it takes you too long to decide, by the time you make up your mind, the sushi has already moved on and beyond your reach. On the flip side, there are also different types of patrons - some are starving and grab the first dish that comes along. Some prefer to wait patiently for their favorite type, some don’t like anything they see and decide to order hot food from the kitchen. Some may not even want to eat and simply enjoy drinking their sake! When it’s time to leave, hopefully every patron has an enjoyable time with a full stomach!

Now, you're wondering what the heck is she babbling about? What does eating sushi have anything to do with Yong Joon's love life?? Hehe, I hope you are not offended by my using sushi to portray our chances (you know I don’t mean any disrespect :) Because I do believe there are many chances that pass in front of us during our lifetime. ‘When’ you are able and ready to take them all depends on your stage and choice in life. Obviously, different choices will lead you down different paths, but who can argue which path is better than the other? They are just different, that’s all! Sure we have all wondered one point or another about an ex-lover .......“What happens now if I married him ......?”, have you? (shhhhhh, no husband allowed to read this, huh :)

Having said all that, being a person with religious faith, I truly believe that everyone in this world has someone out there destined for him/her. However, it doesn’t mean that we are bound to our destiny. You are still given a choice to accept or reject it. Let me give you a more concrete example, like your career choice. Yes, you are great at your current profession now, but how do you know you won’t excel in another field too? Yong Joon always talked about how he stumbled into being an actor, he obviously recognizes that acting is his destiny now. But that does not deter him from realizing his other dreams as an entrepreneur and cultural ambassador, does it? It’s all about choices and how much efforts you are willing to invest in it, right?

My gosh, this is supposed to be a BYJ blog, what happens to our precious prince's love interests in all these discussions? Isn't he the one who stirred up all our curiosity in the first place? Hehe, chakachan, jenny and phuong expressed that it’s perfectly fine if Yong Joon wants to stay single. Chakachan wrote : “Lonely is a state of mind, but if you're happy with what you've got and take responsibilities of your actions and accept the fact that there is something beyond being married..you'll be fine. Marriage is a dream world..but being married is another thing. It is sacred and it should only happen once in your life..there is a special person for everyone, but you're given a choice if you should stay with this person for the rest of your life or go your own path.” I couldn't agree more :)

Lastly, may I share this with you, my past experience (or should I say failure?) has taught me an important lesson in life : you set the level of expectation, you work towards meeting your own expectation (not others’), then you’ll have no one to answer to. I’ll use myoce’s comment to sum up – “Our destiny is our hands, we control our own happiness.” Thank you dear sisters for pouring out your hearts and share with us here, it’s been both educational and emotional for me. We’ll try to talk something funny and lighter next time, ok? I can't be too serious for too long, you know :)